The thread of the sleep and infantile crying is very delicate and they have circulating many false and harmful concepts. I have read and applied (that is to say, to respect and to accompany my son) the book of Rosa Jové "to Sleep without tears" that he tells for what we can wait and what not of our children. I recommend it.
Now I present this one to you of Sheila Kitzinger, the famous social anthropologist and the most popular writer of the world in pregnancy and birth. It has more than 23 books. Here we already present "to Be born at home".
Since I have discovered it in a blog on the maternity and lactation filled of sensibility, sweetness and instinctive knowledge, I dare to publish it here because this way I discard that it is conductista and that it allows to weep for the baby without the consolation of an adult, a hug or a grandma. There are hundreds of scientific and ethical reasons against these systems.
In fact the first chapter of this book is: "The baby is not my enemy". We start by good path.
The prologue belongs to the prolific psychologist, pedagogue and Spanish writer Bernabé Tierno, the publishing house is a Salvat and the price approximately 20 euros.
Here you have an extract of the book that allows us to consider it to be better:
"Another important difference between the industrialized companies and the traditional ones is that the independence that the adults have to demonstrate in our culture also it is imposed on the children from early age, even since they are babies.
If a woman feeds the baby whenever this one wants to suck, if the baby sleeps in the bed with her or if it keeps on giving him the breast spent nine months, they can criticize it for "doing what the baby wants" and warn him that it is raising crows. They say to him that to never be able to extract the baby of the bed, that the child is going to grow "clinging and fearfully", and that, in case of being a male, "will be crashed of the skirts of your mother", what implies that will be made effeminate and unable to have heterosexual relations.
In our culture one insists on inculcating very much the independence into our children. It is considered to be a responsibility. To sleep the whole night, to eat solid, to learn to go to the bath, are not alone things for serviceability of the parents, but indications of this development towards the social independence; it is a cairn in the path.
It is exactly the opposite thing to the relation between the rural mother and your son, whom it accommodates inside the shawl or the poncho, or clinging ties it to your skin. Perhaps we should not be surprised when the babies protest because one separates them by force from the soothing smell, from the steadfastness, from the gentleness and from the safety of the body of your mother, from the sound of your voice and of the rhythm of the beat of the maternal heart.
The women also get lost a little in our culture."
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